It has been raining all day, so I am stuck in the house. I figured it was a great day to start writing about FYMM and the different ways to change. Really, there’s two different ways of changing. There’s the innovative way. and then there’s the FYMM way.
The innovative way is the shock factor, right? Let’s imagine going to the gym, and you jump in there, you haven’t been in the gym in six weeks, six years, whatever it is, some extended amount of time. You go in there, you start maxing out on everything. You go run three miles. You go max your legs on the leg press. You go on your bench press. You bench press every last little thing. You do as many pull-ups as you can. Trying to prove to the world that you’re strong, right? But what happens with innovation, is it’s very expensive for you to do, because the next day or the next three days, the next month, or however long, it depends on how old you are and how long it was since you were last exercising, you’re going to feel it, right? You’re going to pay for that innovative way of changing.
Or trying to stop smoking cigarettes. Like, “Okay, I’m going to stop today. I’m never going to buy a cigarette, never going to smoke another one, today.” Some people have the willpower to be able to do that, but most of us don’t. Just be honest with yourself, most of us don’t. Or, it could be “I’m going to break up with this girlfriend or boyfriend.” Whatever it is in your life. I hope you understand the innovative change, a drastic change that most of the time doesn’t work and could be very expensive both physically and emotionally, if it works then it’s amazing, Great! you were able to change extremely fast and effective.
But when it doesn’t work, it causes you to almost give up. Going to the gym and trying the innovative way and it doesn’t work and you’re sore and you’re like, “Screw this. I’m good.” You know what I’m saying? “I’m good with being a couch potato. I’ll just get used to… I’ll just buy bigger clothes.” Another example; is learning a new marketing skill spending a few thousand dollars on the class and then only spending a few hours taking the class, get frustrated, Stop watching the class halfway through it and proclaiming it to be a scam because it didn’t happen overnight. or a common example is when you leave an unhealthy relationship but returned to the relationship because you’re lonely.
But what the FYMM way is the complete opposite. It teaches us to take small steps, almost so small that you don’t even notice them. You’ll hear me talk about this in future chapters; picking up a pencil every day 10 times with each hand to start working out, or maybe even marching in place for five minutes during the commercials of your favorite TV show. Or to stop smoking cigarettes, buy the rollie pack first, or buy some tobacco that you think is absolutely disgusting and some rolling papers, so every time that you want to smoke a cigarette, you start smoking those. You train your brain to stop going into the store and buying a pack of cigarettes. It sounds crazy, but little by little you’re retraining your brain to go look at the cigarettes and not even think about a cigarette, and you’re going to put yourself in a situation, when you do smoke a cigarette, as you’re not going to be used to the flavor because you’re used to something that you don’t really want. But then, slowly but surely weed yourself down. I’m not saying just replace it. I’m saying weed it down. If you’re smoking 20 cigarettes a day of regular cigarettes, then try to roll-up 20 little itty bitty cigarettes. Break down 20 cigarettes and make 40 out of them, of the little rollies so you’re still getting your nicotine fix but you’re smoking half as much. Right? That’s the FYMM way, or like I said, going to the gym, just marching in place for a little bit, getting yourself used to the moving, building a habit.
Anything that it is, the slow approach, FYMM way of accomplishing things. It’s in the name. If you want to learn how to mountain bike, or you want to climb Mount Everest, you’re obviously not going to just start from the beginning and run up the hill. You gotta do it in stages, and that’s what the FYMM approach basically is, it is doing everything in stages.
I look forward to you reading the next chapter, it gives you a little bit more understanding of what it is, and then talking about the six different strategies of this new approach and why it works.