Today our topic is, Does it Hurt Yet? Keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is insane. The origin of where I learned this, does it hurt yet, comes from uncle June Bug when I was living in East Palo Alto, East Menlo area after I got out of my programs. So basically about 19. He first introduced “does it hurt” to me when I was 18, but it didn’t make any sense until I was 19. Throughout the time when I was 18, I was moving about a million miles per second, spending money like it was going out of style, and uncle, June Bug used to, every time I walked right past him, he’d say, “Does it hurt yet?” I’d look at him like he was crazy, like, what are you talking about old, man? Does what hurt yet? He’s like, you’ll find out.
Go by him again, does it hurt yet? Not knowing what he was talking about. Kind of laughing and joking, not knowing the joke’s on me, right? Well, then I went broke because I was spending money like it was going out of style. And when you do that, you eventually go broke. And I was working next to him by this time. Now, six months before, I had cars, I had thousands of dollars in my pocket at all time and spending thousands of dollars a day all the time. Now I’m broke working next to him, detailing on a car and he asked me again, “Does it hurt yet?” And by that time, I understood what he was talking about. We both laughed a little bit, but it wasn’t a laugh and I’m enjoying myself. It was a laugh that I wish I had listened to him earlier.
All right, let’s get into it.
Do You Not See That Wall? This is the person I was when he was asking me, “Does it hurt yet?” I didn’t see the wall. So do you not see that wall? A know-it-all, not open to advice, a very impulsive person or people, does not play the tape out, stubborn, takes pride in their opinion, not susceptible to change, does not actively improve themselves, and never has time. All right. Now let’s get into it.
A know-at-all, not open to advice. Now, all of us have been in this situation to where we’re talking to somebody and we feel like we’re the experts, so we don’t want to listen to what anyone says. Most of the time, this happens with younger people. However, if the younger person does not learn the necessary skills to enhance their brain and start taking advice, then it could be turned into an old person that still is a know-it-all.
It could have been a know-it-all from when they were younger and still a know-it-all because they didn’t learn how to take advice, right? And what I’ve noticed is most know it alls don’t, all right? Most know it alls don’t know what they’re talking about. They might know a lot about one particular aspect of the topic being discussed. And so they will bully the conversation to make sure that everybody understands what they know about the topic, even though it might not be that much knowledge about said topic. It could be a very small little part, but since this person’s a know-it-all, he doesn’t want to listen to anybody else. He wants center of attention and he wants everybody to listen to what he’s talking about. However, somebody else could have better information than the person that knows everything, right?
So let’s bring it back to the story When I was younger. I knew everything, right? Now, let’s not forget I’ve been in programs since basically I was 12. I had never really touched any money because I was in programs. So I didn’t have any use for money. Money was great, but it didn’t mean anything. Everything was in programs. And here I am 18 years old, thinking I know everything, not listening to anyone. I was listening to people. I was listening to people that also had no money or no knowledge and wanted to spend money and have a good time. So I knew what I was doing, trust me, all the way up until the point I was broke. And it really dawned on me that I can’t just put the ATM card in and it won’t spit money out. I knew what I was doing all the way up until that point.
So when I’m discussing, do you not see that wall? I’m really talking about myself. Remember these are the 12 things that I’ve learned throughout the course of my life. Being a know-it-all, it’s not always the best idea. Being very impulsive, does not play the tape all the way out. Now, again, an impulsive person is someone who doesn’t think, right? They just, it sounds like a good idea. Let’s go. Right? Very fast. I’m only going to talk about my personal experience when I was younger, running into the wall, I was very impulsive. So if we wanted to go somewhere for the weekend or not weekend, weekend means that I was planning. If we had a conversation right now, within 15 minutes, we might be on our way for a 12-hour drive without even considering what we’re doing, right?
A very impulsive person does not play the tape out. Let me give you a perfect example through the story. An impulsive decision would be this, renting an apartment in California for six months and random mall space in Spokane, Washington for a year, not playing the tape out. If you don’t know where those two distances are, they are about a 15-hour drive, two and a half hours in the airplane, away from each other. Only an impulsive person would do something like that because he’s not playing the tape out. I’m not two people, I’m only one person. It is literally impossible for me to be in two places at once. Impulsive decisions. When you’re running into the wall, and you’re not understanding that you’re running into the wall, you’re doing the same thing over and over and over and over, over, over, over, over. You’re not playing the tape out and you’re being very impulsive.
If you don’t slow yourself down to analyze every decision that you’re about to make, then you’re going to make a bad decision. It might not look that bad in the beginning, but over the long haul, it will be a bad decision, right?
Stubborn. Takes pride in their own opinion. Why is it so important? I go through this too as well. So it’s not like I’m some special person that this doesn’t happen to, but why are we so obsessed with our opinion being correct? Just because we think something does not necessarily mean it’s correct. Understand, perception is one’s reality. However, if you’re perceiving something incorrectly, then your perception is going to be incorrect or rather your reality, if you’re perceiving something incorrectly, your reality is going to be skewed and it’s not going to be correct. Does that make sense?
So if you’re super stubborn on something and you’re not… Let me rephrase that. If you’re super stubborn and you take pride in your opinion, and what I mean by taking pride in your opinion is no one else’s opinion matters, you are stuck on stupid and there’s nothing in this world that’s going to convince you a different way. Nothing. It does not matter if there is complete logic behind someone else’s opinion, you are so stubborn that you will not allow that to be true. Majority of the time, people are going to be like, “No, no, no. That’s not me. I’m not stubborn.” All right. Okay. You don’t think you are? There are books that will teach you how to do everything. If it’s how to make more money, here’s a book right here. Yes, You Can Time the Market, stock market book.
Do you want to learn about optimizing for the internet? Right here, Optimize. Do you want to learn about juicing? Here’s a juicing book. Here’s another, oh, this is by Benjamin Graham, Warren Buffet, investor books. I’m discussing these books, because when you’re stubborn and you are only concerned with your opinion, then these books are never going to mean anything to you because your opinion is correct and no one else’s opinion matters. That’s what’s being stubborn. So if you look in a mirror and you’re like, I don’t know what your problem is, your problem could be finances, your problem could be loved life, your problem could be not talking to people, your problem could be health, if you’re not actively searching for other opinions because you’re stuck on your way of doing things, then that’s stubborn.
So if you want to learn finance and I give you a book on finance and you’re like, “Oh, I don’t read,” okay, that’s your opinion. And that’s being stubborn. And that’s taking pride in your opinion on how to acquire Knowledge, because if you don’t read, what do you do? So if it’s to lose weight because money and weight are two big things, you know not to eat sugar and fatty foods, right? But if you continuously do it, you’re being stubborn. You’re taking pride in your opinion that you know what you’re doing better than common sense. Common sense will tell you if you eat horrible food, you’re going to have horrible results. If you are not healthy and you want to be healthy, but you’re continuously eating horrible food, then you are being extremely stubborn with your opinion, and you’ll keep running into that brick wall, not for any other reason than being stubborn on your opinion on the way that you do things. All right? I think I’ve beat that horse to death.
Onto the next one
Not susceptible to change, does not actively improve themselves. This kind of goes with being stubborn. So it comes perfect, right? Not susceptible to change, does not actively improve themselves. What does “improve yourself”, mean to you? That’s a question for yourself, because improving myself is completely different than improving yourself. For me, improving myself is I want to improve not just my mind, I want to improve my body, I want to improve everything. I’m one of those weird people that wants to be perfect, right? I strive for perfection. I’m not very good at it, but that’s the main goal is to strive for perfection because I’ve ran into the wall so many times that I’ve learned to do the opposite of this entire list, which we’ll talk about in just a second.
However, at one point in time, almost all the way up until a year and a half ago, two years ago. So I’m 37 now, so up to about 35, I thought I could change. I thought I was susceptible to change, but I wasn’t. And I wasn’t actively improving myself. I was doing a lot of busy work and looking back at some of the things were helpful, some of the lessons I learned, I take advantage of now. However, I could have been walked around that wall years ago, years ago and not kept running into it, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam. Right? I was not actively improving myself as what I am right now. Yeah, I would read the occasional book, I would go to the gym, but I wasn’t actively trying to improve myself. Going to the gym or reading a book was a sporadic thing. So I’d go to the gym for three, four months and then stop for two years. That’s not really actively improving myself, right? I’ve read a book and then I wouldn’t read another one for six months. It’s not actively improving yourself.
So with anything in life, if you’re not actively doing it, you’re going to forget it. All right? So if you’re trying to learn a new language, let’s say you’re trying to learn Spanish, and you’re almost fluent, and then you move to Uzbekistan and nobody speaks Spanish, so you no longer speak Spanish and you don’t speak Spanish for six months. And then you go right back into a Spanish-speaking country, it’s going to take you a little bit of time to remember what you had previously learned because you’re not actively practicing. Now, if you’re a native Spanish speaker, obviously you’re going to be like, “What are you talking about? That doesn’t make any sense.” Well, you natively know the language. I’m talking about a skill that you have learned and you’re good, but you’re not a master, right?
I can go months without driving a car, but when I get in a car, I know how to drive a car. I’ve been doing that for 20 something years, almost every single day. That’s second nature. Riding a bike, same thing. But when I was younger, I had hours and hours of practice. So with the susceptible to change, not actively improving yourself, if you don’t actively improve yourself, then you’re going to forget the things that at one point in time accomplished or achieved. Do you not see that wall? Not actively improving yourself is like having that wall right in front Of you, and having your nose straight to the wall, and being like, “No, I’m not going to get any better. No, I’m not going to get any better. No, I’m not going to get any better.” It’s putting a ceiling on your growth. If you don’t want to change, then you’re going to restrict your success and your abilities.
Never has time. I’ve heard people give me this excuse so much. I personally, I almost believe it. I believe people do not have time and this is why, they don’t want to have time. Time means that they might have to do something. As long as they don’t have time to do something, they never have to change. There’s always an excuse on why they’re going to keep running into that wall, because if you’ve taken the Six Strategies class or the 10 Minutes, then you know there is no possible way you can’t have time. Impossible. Impossible that you don’t have time. However, in a person that’s keep running into the wall, let’s give a couple examples so it can drill down into your head what I’m discussing, what I’m referring to, because it’s not just have time, it’s more or less an excuse. Because I never have time, that’s an excuse. Well, I didn’t have time. That’s an excuse.
So another excuse is I don’t have data, which is ridiculous, come on. Another excuse is it was too hard. Another excuse is it was boring. Another excuse, actually never has time is probably the best one to use. I’m just thinking in my head of the best example. I want to use someone else’s example of somebody else, but we’ll keep it on me. Here’s a perfect example. When I got out in 2000, when I was 18, I had a lot of money. I was supposed to go talk to a stock broker, investment person but I never found time. I was too busy drinking. I was too busy blowing money. I was too busy, let’s see, being irresponsible. I couldn’t find time for the responsible thing to do.
Now, let’s go back into this a little bit more. This is why “never has time” is so important. When I was in middle school (if you read “12 years of hell” you understand) at the boarding school, this is when Steve Jobs had just went back to Apple and they were revolutionizing the computer industry. They had the different color backgrounds. They’re making computers look cool. And my school was teaching us websites. It was the new wave of the future, it was a tech school. When I turned 18, A matter of fact, we’ll go even back even further. Back to Forrest Gump, That was in 94’ (or something) because there’s two things. What did he tell everybody? He said, “And this company, Apple, came around and I always liked apples. My mom always told me apples were good. So I went ahead and invested in it and wow.” That was in the 90s. I got out of programs in the early 2000.
Good movie, Forrest Gump always loved it. I can still recall that line. So there’s no way I didn’t remember it then. Then, I’d been exposed to Apple. I knew the stock market. I never found time to invest a penny in Apple, way back then. If I had invested in Apple in 2002, I could have taken $100,000, even $5,000, and it went from like $6 to $700 stock split back down to $100 to $400 stock split back down to $100, and now it’s at $120, $130. Never had time because I was too busy running into the brick walls, too busy being impulsive. I was too busy knowing everything to listen to advice. I was too stubborn in my own ways. Even though I didn’t know anything about money, in my mind, I knew everything. I was smarter than everybody else. I was not susceptible to change. I wasn’t trying to improve myself. And I never had time.
And wallah, I went broke and years later, it would have been the smartest thing in the world to do one small thing, talk to somebody and give them some money. And my life would’ve been completely different.
Let Me Go Around Or Over. Now, let’s talk about a person who’s not that, the person who sees that there’s a wall and wants to go around it or over it or through it. But the whole through it, it’s kind of stupid, the whole going through something, unless you have dynamite and going to blow it up, I get it. But the whole energy and pressure of trying to bust through something, why don’t you just go around? It’s easier. Understands the smartest person in the room perceives he knows nothing absorbing everything, open to new ideas. If it can be done more efficiently than make it so.
Makes every decision with cautious thought. Understands the body is constantly reprogramming itself. If you want something different, do something different. Understands how to create time.
Understands the smartest person in the room perceives he knows nothing. Remember, the person that keeps running into a wall, he thinks he’s the smartest person in the room and does not want to listen to anything that anyone else says. Now, what I’ve learned is when you’re quiet and you really don’t tell anybody anything about what you know, and you allow people to just talk, you’ll learn more about that person. It’s amazing.
When you don’t do the talking and you allow other people to talk, you get to find out really fast if this person is worth your time or not. But if you’re doing all the talking, you’ll never know because you haven’t given the other person time to talk. So the smartest person in the room understands he knows nothing. When you go into any environment, understand that you probably don’t know anything. If it’s a new environment, you don’t know anything about this person. You might think you do, but you know nothing about this person. So it’s smarter to listen, absorb everything. If it’s a business meeting, absorb mannerisms, how are people acting? How are people receiving information that they get? What is their body language telling you? If you’re not paying attention to all these small minute details, then you might misread something. You might miscalculate something that could cost millions, thousands, billions, whatever, hundreds. It all depends on what level you’re on.
If you’re in a relationship or a new date, and you’re doing all the talking, at the end of it, you might be like, “Oh, this was amazing. I had such a great time.” And the other person would be like, “Oh, I had such a great time.” Five years down the road and you still don’t know anything about this person, because all you’ve done is do the talking. And she’s perfectly fine with it because she never has to open up about herself. Well one day, she does something that you’re like, “What? Why’d you do that?” And she’s like, “Oh, this is normal.” But you had no idea because you were so busy about you that you forgot about the other person. If you want to go over the wall, around the wall or blow the wall up, I’m going to go with dynamite, understand and see what is actually happening? What is actually being talked about? What are people actually thinking? And the only way you can do that is to reserve yourself and not be out really trying to spew your knowledge on the world. In other words, shut the fuck up and listen.
Open to new ideas. If it can be done more efficiently than make it so. This goes a lot with, I don’t see problems, I only see solutions. So if you live in an environment where everything is a problem, if you just think in problems, then you’re always going to be stressed because everything is a stressful situation. However, if you think of everything as solutions, then everything’s just a challenge and it’s not even a problem. It’s an experiment that didn’t go how you wanted it to go, so you have to tweak a couple ingredients and then try it again. It’s very different when you see solutions opposed to problems. Open to new ideas, if it can be done more efficiently than make it so. So now that goes completely opposite of the stubborn person. Really the stubborn person or the know it all. It goes opposite of all of them. Open to new ideas is counter to being stubborn.
If you’ve been doing something, let’s say losing weight or making money, and let’s say you’ve had relative success, I’m not going to say that you’ve been terrible, so you’ve been able to have relative success. However, if someone new comes in, remember Understands the smartest person perceives he knows nothing and is willing to learn new ideas. Learn them, scan them, make sure they work for you, don’t just take every idea. With being open to new ideas, let’s say you go into a conference, a health conference and you’re talking to somebody and you’re discussing, “Well, I’m having a hard time losing weight or I’m having a hard time building my tricep.” And you see someone with some enormous triceps or beautiful shape and you go up and you ask them. And they give you pointers and you go and you ask about three or four different people, so you have a larger array of information for you to look back at later when you go home.
Then you formulate a plan off of your new information. You understood that you weren’t the smartest person. You were open to new ideas. You weren’t stubborn. And then through all that, hopefully you’ll be able to find a more efficient way of doing something. Same thing with finance. If saving money this way has been working, but if someone has a better idea for you, do your research and then adjust accordingly.
Makes every decision with cautious thought.So when I was at Cascade, so 16, maybe 17, I was in English class and they had us read this one, I think it was Benjamin Franklin something. And he was explaining treaty negotiations, with a native American, a tribe or something. And what he noticed is how… I’m going to try to paraphrase what he said.
And he’s like, well, when white people negotiate and they come up with the decision, they come up with the decision relatively fast. However, when the native Americans made a decision, they would discuss it as a group and think of the consequences and think of the, how would this affect every aspect of the tribe. And then the next day after they pondered on it, then they’d give you an answer. This shocked, (I think I could be wrong, I think it was Benjamin Franklin,) and it shocked Benjamin Franklin because it was a completely different way of negotiating than what he was used to. So when you want to go around or over or blow up the wall, you have to make every decision with cautious thought, which you can’t just willy nilly, and, “Oh, this sounds like a good idea. Let’s do it.”
You have to think of the consequence. How am I going to feel about this decision in an hour, in a week, in a day, in a month, in a year, in 10 years? Is this decision the best decision for me right now? Or is it the best decision for my future? Or is it the best decision just because I want to do it? So every decision that you make, if you want to get around, if you want to go over, any obstacle that you have in life, you have to make these decisions with cautious thought. I didn’t say with fear, I say with caution, use caution when you’re making a decision. Make sure that you make it this decision, and it’s a good decision. And if it’s not, you need to be able to cut it as fast as possible and revert to a different decision.
So if you’re going down a path, and then all of a sudden you’re seeing monsters and demons and everything, you might want to turn around and go the other way, right? You don’t want to just being stubborn and keep going to the monsters and things. When they tell you to go away, you’re like, “No, I’m going to go through, even though you’re asking me, please, don’t come through, we’re going to kill you.” And you’re like, “You know what, I don’t believe it. I’m going to do it anyways.” No, turn around and go down a different path, right? Make every decision with cautious thought, but then also have the ability to change your mind on a dime if it’s not working.
Understands the body is constantly reprogramming itself. If you want something different, do something different. Now, I don’t know the exact stats. I can’t remember. I’ve heard the numbers a few times, but the body cells regenerate itself or like rebuild itself every six months or something. So if you want to transform yourself and be able to go over obstacles in a faster rate or become, as we say, open to new ideas, it can be done more efficiently than make it so, if you want to be more efficient. If you want to just optimize your life better, then part of the way that you do this is small steps, one, read the book, Six Strategies to Conquer Life or 10 Minutes. Do it small so that you understand that you’re reprogramming yourself. A habit is just a program that your body runs every day.
So in order to change that, you need to reprogram it. The code in your mind, you need to change it. The only way that you can do that is first understand that you just got to reprogram yourself. So right now, I’m working on programming myself to wake up even earlier so that I have the maximum amount of time in my day. I’m trying different strategies. So I’m always trying different things to see how what’s best for me, because I understand that the body is constantly reprogramming itself. So if I’m going to try this strategy for a while, and if I can get it, I’m going to see how it affects me. If it doesn’t work how I want it, then I’m going to reprogram myself in a different way. So I’ve been juicing for about two to three weeks. My body is now starting to take the effects of the juicing, right? Because at first, my body probably didn’t understand what all this nutrients was. It’s never had that much nutrients ever.
So the body was probably not understanding what to do with all these nutrients and vitamins and minerals and everything. So it took a minute for it to change. But after about a month, two months, three months, again, it’s constantly reprogramming itself. So it’s doing it in a slow but steady pace. And it’s like working out. If you work out for three days, you will not see a difference. You have to work out for three months, and then you’re like, “Oh, wow, look, I look a little different.” It’s the same thing with reprogramming yourself. You got to do something consistently for a few months so that you see the after effects of the reprogramming. And then you can look back and analyze. Does that make sense? You can’t just do something for a week and think that your brain is going to be reprogrammed. If you want something different, you have to do something different consistently, consistently over and over and over until it gives your body the necessary time to reprogram.
Understands how to create time.Part of my reprogramming is to optimize my day. I’m trying to create as much time in the day as possible. Well, how do you do that? First, you have to understand how many hours can you be efficient? I know everyone’s going to be like, “Oh, I can be efficient for 12 hours.” No, you can’t. No, you can’t. For me, maybe four hours, and then I’m no longer efficient. But that’s like four hours of intense work, four or five hours, and the time will fly by. But then after my butt starts to hurt, I get antsy. I have to move around.
So my morning exercise routine is about an hour and 15 minutes. My afternoon exercise routine is about an hour, It’ll get up to about an hour and 15 minutes. So we’re looking that, but did you understand? I said in the afternoon, my afternoon routine. So in the morning time, I have a morning routine that I might relax, take a nap, do some work, kind of what I’m doing right now, then come back to the table, rewake myself back up because I work intensely, take a break, recharge my battery, work intense, take a break, recharge my battery, working intense, take a break, recharge my battery. Does it make sense? So instead of trying to do something throughout the entire day where you’re not effective, rest and relax and don’t think of anything unless it’s depending on what kind of work that you’re doing. But if you’re doing a lot of brainwork, then you need to give your brain a break.
About four hours, give it a break, another four hour, give it a break. That’s how to create time. You could be completely different than me, but you have to understand when, how, what times are you most effective? How long can you be effective? How much time do you need to recover? Once you have those, then you can create time, because you know you can maximize in your five hours, two hours, one hour, eight hours of complete optimization, maximize. Don’t count time where you’re not at 100% capability, because if you’re counting time when you’re not optimizing, you’re like at 45%, then you’re wasting time. Just because you think that you’re working, you’re not getting anything done. You’re just staring at a page or you’re dicking off, but only count the time you’re actually working.
And then after you have that number, take a break, give your brain time to wander, ponder, dream, whatever it wants to do. And then reel it back in and be like, “All right, time to work again. Let’s get down.” Pull another few hours, take a little nap or whatever, and then do it again. That’s how you create time. And I’ll see you on the next one.
Table Of Contents
- Live In The Here And Now
- Walk With A Purpose
- All You Need Is 2 Dollars
- A Man Can’t Be A Man Without A Plan
- Does It Hurt Yet
- Be Careful When You Are Using Someone That Person Could Be Using You
- Use Em, Abuse Em & Lose Em: A Zero Sum Game
- Picking your own shit
- I hate people – people are stuupid
- I stay ready It keeps me from having to get ready
- Be Selfish
- Either You Do Or You Don’t