All right, let’s get started. I stay ready! It keeps me from having to get ready. Be prepared for tomorrow today, not today be prepared for yesterday.
The origin of this was when I was about 19, late 18, early 19 when I was making … or about mid-19. Around those years, it wasn’t a saying that was said once. It was something that was said continuously over, and over, and over again. So I heard the phrase numerous times over a course of maybe two to three years. It was the boss, the person I was working for, the person I ended up going to Kentucky for, the person that I ended up going to Korea for, he would always say, “I stay ready because it keeps me from having to get ready.” He would drill that into my head.
When I was with him, we literally would be waking up at 5:00 to 6:00 in the morning and then wouldn’t get home until 11:30-12:00 at night, and then having to do it again. I was a driver, so if he was taking a nap, I still had to work. The only time I got to not do anything was when he was having a meeting or something, but then I was usually either eating lunch or doing something else. So it was a consistent go, go, go atmosphere.
Now why this is so important is if you want to succeed in life, if you want to accomplish anything, you have to be ready. The amount of time it takes to get yourself ready, it’s a lot of time if you add it all up. Now think about it. Then we’ll get into the class. I ride my bike every morning, about 20 miles an hour every morning. Now I understand that when I am just waking up. I’m a little slower because I’m groggy. I’m not awake yet, so I understand it takes a little bit of time to process waking up.
Now if I’m prepared for my bike ride, I have my paper towel. I have my water. I have the remote control. Everything’s already set up for the morning. I stay ready because it keeps me from having to get ready. So then in the morning, I don’t have to focus on getting, finding my water, finding a paper towel, finding the remote control. I’m already set up. I’m ready to go. So while I’m slow and my brain’s not awake yet, and I’m kind of discombobulated because I’m just waking up, I have prepared myself to where I don’t have to think. I’m already prepared.
So let’s get into the lesson.
Being Unprepared, being late, which causes stress, rush, anxious, frustration, lashing out, to depression, digression. Body, and mind start to deteriorate because of lack of use. Impulsive. Making irrational choices. Sounded like a good idea at the time, and low self-esteem. Breaking little promises to ourself. Always feeling behind.
Being late, being unprepared. I don’t have any stress. If you look at my hair, I don’t have any gray hair. Occasionally, I get a couple of grays here and there, and I’m almost 40. My brother because you’d be like, “Well it’s genetics.” Well, my brother who’s the same mom, same dad, he’s gray all over the place. I don’t put myself in stressful situations. To other people, that might be stressful, but to me it’s not stressful.
Rushed. I can’t stand being rushed because I always tend to forget. I’m one of those people that if I’m rushing, I forget stuff. Like I was just talking about it, if I don’t prepare the bike for the morning, then I might forget something, get on the bike, and then I have to stop because I wasn’t prepared. I was ill-prepared. That’s why I don’t like being rushed.
Anxious, an anxious person. I don’t like anxiety. I don’t like surprises. I don’t like being out of control. So anxious, being anxious is not knowing what’s coming. You’re anxious. You’re worried about what’s coming, which being anxious, all these add onto each other. So if you’re stressed, you’re going to be moving really fast, which is going to rush you, which when you’re rushed, then you start forgetting things, which is going to cause you to be anxious. So then when you’re anxious, you’re going to be on the edge. You might not think it. You might be in a constant state of being anxious, which you have anxiety problems, which if you have those problems, you won’t even notice what I’m saying because it’s so common to you that you already noticed maybe 10 years ago.
So what happens is once you become anxious, then you start getting frustrated at everything, little things that if you were not stressed, if you were relaxed, and you weren’t anxious, it wouldn’t frustrate you. It wouldn’t even bother you. But since you’re stressed, you’ve been rushed, now you’re anxious. Now it’s causing frustration because when you’re anxious your heart beats really fast. You feel like you’re having a heart attack. I cannot stand my heart beating really fast and me not knowing the outcome of what’s about to happen. I’m very bad when it comes to being anxious.
When I’m anxious, this is part of the reason I don’t like surprises because before a surprise, I get really anxious, and then I get really short, I’m really frustrated. So I’m on edge. People can frustrate me really fast and someone could be literally trying to do the nicest thing for me in the world, but since it’s a surprise and I’m extremely anxious, I’m frustrated. What that causes is it causes lashing out.
If you have kids, or if you’re in a relationship with somebody, you need to pay attention to this because being late, just being late, as being unprepared, ill-prepared, causes stress, which causes you to be rushed, which causes you to be anxious, which causes frustration, which causes you to lash out, and then after all of those things, this lovely thing happens. It’s called, you become depressed. You don’t understand why you’re lashing out at your kids or your loved one. You don’t understand why you’re always so frustrated. You don’t understand how you’re taking pills for anxiety, and they’re just not working. You don’t understand why you’re so rushed with everything, how you just never seem to have time. You never understand why you’re getting gray hairs all over the place and so stressed. It could come from the smallest little thing, you’re always late, and you’re ill-prepared for the day coming. I challenge you to become prepared and see if it changes anything.
Digression. Being unprepared, it causes your body and your mind to start to deteriorate because you just seen being late, how it causes … We go through all, what, six different steps, which lead us to down the road to eventual depression. So what happens if we are consistently late, and we go down those six steps to where we end to depression, our mind and our body start to deteriorate. Our mind starts to deteriorate because, we keep telling ourselves how stressed we are, how anxious we are, how frustrated we are, and then our mind starts believing it, so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I honestly don’t understand depression. I don’t. If you don’t like something, or if you’re sad about something, just go change what you’re not liking, or what you’re sad about and try something different. Keep trying different things until you are no longer depressed or no longer stressed, no longer rushed, no longer anxious, no longer frustrated.
Now what comes with: Being prepared is using your body and your mind. So being ill-prepared means you’re not taking care of your health. You’re not exercising every day. You’re not reading every day, so your mind’s not being stimulated and your body’s not being stimulated. So if that happens, it starts to deteriorate. Everything deteriorates, if you don’t take constant care of it.
No time in life should somebody be less intelligent than they were before. However, in today’s society, that’s part of what’s happening. We’re digressing because we’re in a society where it’s okay to be late. We live in a society where it’s okay to avoid responsibility, which I don’t have that on here, which is a very important part of this, is being irresponsible. If you’re irresponsible, you’re going to be stressed. You’re going to be rushed. You’re going to be anxious. You’re going to be frustrated. You’re going to lash out on people, and you’re going to be, in turn, depressed. Responsibility is being prepared for the unthinkable or unimaginable.
Impulsive, making irrational choices. If you’re rushed, and you need to make a decision at a moment’s notice, you are not going to make a good decision. You haven’t thought of everything. You haven’t compared and contrasted the benefits or the consequences, whether they’re positive, or they’re negative. When you’re acting on impulse, I’ve done this a lot and it never works out well. You want to see someone who acts on impulse, if you don’t understand what I’m saying, look at somebody that’s drunk. When someone’s drunk, they make really irrational decisions, a decision that you’re like, man, if I was not drunk, I would not have made that decision.
Yes, because you’re in a drunken state. You’re rushed. You’re not patient. You’re anxious. You’re easily frustrated, and you make extremely irrational decisions whether it’s, I would have never slept with that person if I wasn’t drunk, or I would’ve never drove last night if I wasn’t drunk, making irrational decisions that can have extremely horrible consequences all because it sounded like a good idea at the time. It’s about being irresponsible and not having any structure in your life. The more structure that you have in your life, the less apt you are to making irrational decisions, the more apt you are to not live by a code, and being late, and digressing in life, and being impulsive.
Low self-esteem. Now you might not see how you can connect being late and being ill-prepared with your self-esteem, but the two of them are immensely connected. On a daily basis, we make an assortment of promises to ourself. You might not think that you do, but on a daily basis, you probably make about a thousand promises, small promises to yourself. I’m going to exercise. I’m going to read. I’m going to go this way. I’m going to start thinking this way. All these little promises that you have, if you keep them, you build self-esteem. If you break them, your self-esteem starts to deteriorate. It’s an internal thing. It’s about accomplishing small, minute goals on a consistent basis, which builds self-esteem. It has nothing really to do with anything else. It’s about accomplishing small, minute goals.
So you can be like, “Well, self-esteem has to do with your body.” Not really. The only way that it has to do with your body is because over the course of months, you have kept the little promises to yourself of going to the gym, of eating healthy, so the end result of all that, yes, you have some self-esteem. You’re happy, you look good, but that’s wasn’t the cause of the self-esteem. The cause of the self-esteem was the small, minute challenges that you accomplished, and you achieved. The more challenges that you accomplish, and you achieve, the better you feel. What is it? Your endorphins or whatever it is, shoot off and have little chemical reactions.
Now when you’re ill-prepared, and you stop going to the gym, or whatever it is, your self-esteem is going to deteriorate because you’re breaking the small, little promises that you’ve made to yourself. If you’re always feeling behind, then it’s difficult for you to have a strong self-esteem because you’re always having to look at the pack or the rear of the pack. You never get to see the light of day because there’s always something in front of you. You’re always at the back.
So with being ill-prepared and how we get to, “I stay ready because it keeps me from having to get ready, be prepared for tomorrow today, not today, be prepared for yesterday”, I’ve seen that with a lot of people. They are prepared today for yesterday, but if you ask them about tomorrow, they haven’t thought about it yet. You are never going to succeed if you are prepared for yesterday.
Being prepared is being punctual, having a well-thought out plan for the day. Accounting for negative moments. Progressive. Always learning new tactics. Investing in personal development. Sharpens the saw. Multilateral. Mind, body, spirit congruently working together. Having the ability to put things into perspective. Does it really matter?
Punctual. Having a well-thought out plan for the day. Accounting for negative moments. My schedule is not normal for most people as it’s 4:15 in the morning. Well, no, it’s probably about 4:20. Excuse me, it’s 4:38 in the morning, and I’ve already rode 20 miles on the bike. I’ve already gone to the bathroom. I’ve been moving around since 2:00 in the morning. I woke up at 1:30 this morning, so I understand my schedule is very different than most. However, the reason I wake up when I wake up is because I need the time. There’s not enough time in the day for me if I were to live a normal person’s life just because I need time. I have different things I’ve learned about myself to where it takes me all day to accomplish what I want to accomplish.
But through my planning, I also understand that during … I’m not going to have an entire bad day, that’s impossible. Even the day my mom died wasn’t all the way a bad day. It had a lot of bad moments, but the entire day wasn’t bad from the minute I woke up to the minute I went to bed. It wasn’t all the way bad. The majority of that day was bad. Maybe if I was awake for 18 hours, maybe 16 of them were terrible, but there were still two hours where they weren’t very bad. So whatever you’re doing, you always have to count for the negative moments, the negative things that can happen throughout the day. That doesn’t necessarily mean dwell on them, but it does mean take in consideration that you might have negative moments throughout the day. There’s nothing wrong with having negative parts of the day. What’s only wrong about it is how you deal with those negative moments throughout the day.
A few days ago, a friend of mine was calling me, and they were extremely frustrated. They were trying to explain to me what was going on. I asked them, I was like, “Well, didn’t you get what you wanted?” They’re like, “Yes I did, but I didn’t like how they were talking about me.” In my mind, I was like, what does it matter? Who cares? But this person allowed the negative thoughts to consume their entire day. That’s not what we want. When you’re being prepared and you’re being punctual, you have a well-thought out plan for your entire day, accounting for negative moments. But we also understand that those negative moments are not the entire day, so we can’t give them the control of the entire day.
Progressive. Always learning new tactics. Investing in personal development, and sharpens the saw. Let’s start with sharpens the saw. You don’t sharpen the saw every day. You might sharpen the saw before you use it. If you’re going to use your chainsaw, you sharpen it. You might sharpen it every other day, depending on the usage. If you’re using it a lot, you might need to sharpen it every day, but it depends on how much you use it, is how much it needs to be sharpened. So if you don’t use your saw, but once a month, you only need to sharpen it once a month. If you use your saw every day, well, you’re going to have to sharpen it every day, and you might have to have extra chains.
Now why am I talking about a saw and chains? Okay. You need to sharpen yourself. You need to sharpen and refine your skills. You need to define your goal on a daily basis.
Investing in personal development and always learning new tactics. When you’re always learning new tactics, after you learn that new tactic, you got to sharpen that saw. That’s sharpening the saw, is learning a new tactic, actually. So when you’re learning a new tactic, it’s the same as the saw before you’re about to cut a tree. You’re sharpening it, and then you’re how do you sharpen it? Invest in personal development. So it’s like when you’re learning a new tactic, it’s personal development. You’re taking the time to sharpen your skills, which is sharpening your saw.
So you can’t be digressive. You have to be progressive in everything because, especially in today’s age with computers, what’s happening is every few years we’re doubling in technology, it seems like. So if you’re not learning new tactics, if you’re not investing in your personal development, then your saw is going to be very dull. It might’ve been sharp five years ago, but those same skill sets are no longer useful. I went to school. I’ve met a couple people and one of my buddies. He went to school for computer science and after it, I still have yet to see anything that he’s been able to create.
Now that’s a lot of money that’s been down the drain, a lot of time and energy down the drain. I would say, if he wanted to enter the workforce right now, his saw is dull. He hasn’t refined his skills. He hasn’t practiced. He hasn’t invested in personal development on his trait. He hasn’t learned any new tactics. So through that, if you don’t actively invest in yourself in growing and sharpening your saw, your saw will be dull, and it will be worthless. Try to cut a tree with a dull saw. It doesn’t work very well. You might be able to get it down, but you’re going to be doing it for quite some time, and it’s a waste of time.
Being multilateral. Being prepared, you have to have your mind, body and spirit working congruently together, or congruently working together in order to reach the maximum potential that you might have, so your spirit. You got to be in good spirits. You got to feed whatever it is. If you’re Christian, if you’re Jewish, if you’re Muslim, whatever it is, whatever you believe in, you have be involved. Coming from me, it could sound a little different because I’m not a major religion. I believe in my mom and dad, and they’re the ones. They died when I was younger, but every time when I needed help, I always looked to this sky, and I talked to them. Sometimes their name is god, but for the most part, it’s Mom and Dad. So that’s me sharpening my saw with my spirituality, is taking the time to talk to my mom and dad, if that makes sense.
So with my body, every day, I’m exercising. If you heard me just earlier in this chapter, I’ve already been on the bike for 20 miles. Later today, I’m going to go on for 30 minute run. So I’m working on my spirituality. I’m working on my body, and then I’m consistently learning to better my mind. So when all three of these are congruent and congruently working together, that is the epitome of being well-prepared. Now if only you have your mind working, that’s great, but you’re missing out on two-thirds of the equation. If you’re only focused on your body, but you’re dumb as a doornail, again, that’s amazing, but you’re only focusing on one part of the equation. In order for yourself to reach maximum potential, you have to have all three of them working together.
Having the ability to put things into perspective. Does it really matter? This is a good one. When you’re stressed out, frustrated, ill-prepared, everything matters. But when you’re focused on your own life, your own goals, your own dreams, and you have the ability to put things in perspective, well, that’s a whole world completely because then you can ask yourself the real questions. Does it really matter? Now for some, everything matters, but does it really, what someone said about you on social media? Now in that brief moment, you could think this is the end of my world, and I can’t believe they said that. But in the larger perspective of things, does it matter? When you put things in perspective, you realize a lot of people are very arrogant. They think that it’s easy to become famous. They’re like, “No, I don’t want that. I don’t want my face out there for the whole world to see.”
Does it really matter? People work their ass off on a daily basis for people to notice them, but you’re so arrogant in your way of thinking, that you think it’s just going to be given to you. Does it really matter? No. The more experiences I’ve been through, I’ve done lots of things that people will look at me and be like, “There’s no way I’d do that,” but I’m still alive, and does it really matter? Quick, little, brief story that popped into my head. It’s not from the 12 years. It’s a little bit later. Excuse me. It’s actually much, much, many years later.
I was in this house. A friend I hadn’t seen for years came and visited, or she really just came and stayed for a couple hours. Now I gave people fair warning that I’m working on my house. I told them, “This is a warehouse.” Another buddy came, and he said, “No, it’s like a ware-mansion.” Yeah, okay, whatever, but it’s a warehouse because I was working on my books. I was working on my Amazon bookstore. I was doing other projects. They come, the first thing they do is judge me. We talk about money, and they arrogantly discuss how much money they have. I listen. I keep my mouth shut. Why? Because my business is my business. To make the story come to an end, this person ended up leaving because the state of my house. Now little does she know, and to put things in perspective, my house has appreciated more than her entire net wealth in the state that it is.
So the fact that I can sleep in a house that maybe has a fly flying around in it, or a mosquito, does it really matter? No. Put it in perspective. I’m in the process of working. I’m in the process of fixing the house. It should be common knowledge that when you’re building something, or when you’re working in the middle of something, it’s not going to look perfect, but people forget that part. They see TV, they see this, they see that, but they never see the struggle. They only see the house when it looks like shit and the program is only 30 minutes, so they got a jam pack a month, or two months of fixing on this house into 30 minutes.
So they see the house, and they see the house look amazing, and so people perceive that this is an easy process. It’s a process that went like that, snap of the finger. However, that’s not how it really goes. There’s always going to be shit you have to muddle through in order to come out on top, so having the ability to put things in perspective. If instead, this person came over and started asking me about my house and about my finances, then she would understand that the amount of money that she has, if I had that amount of money, I would be extremely nervous because it’s not enough money.
Now she arrogantly was trying to be condescending towards me because she assumed she had more than me, even though the amount that she has, I have more than 10 to 20 times the amount her net worth. So her net worth is minuscule to mine, but she was very judgmental because she did not have the ability to put things in perspective, and with that. I will see you on the next one, which is, to be selfish.
Table Of Contents
- Live In The Here And Now
- Walk With A Purpose
- All You Need Is 2 Dollars
- A Man Can’t Be A Man Without A Plan
- Does It Hurt Yet
- Be Careful When You Are Using Someone That Person Could Be Using You
- Use Em, Abuse Em & Lose Em: A Zero Sum Game
- Picking your own shit
- I hate people – people are stuupid
- I stay ready It keeps me from having to get ready
- Be Selfish
- Either You Do Or You Don’t